When you find something in your world that is unpleasant to you, you can be assured it is connected with your fear. You may then request any and all fears to be placed in the center of your awareness to be felt and then released. Even if what you are experiencing temporarily is fear or sadness, simply allowing the feelings to flow will release you from the tyranny of fear. It is only the fear of a thing that keeps you from experiencing joy, not the thing itself. Fear of sadness is the destroyer of joy, not the sadness itself. (for even in the full experience of sadness there is the joy of knowing love.) We have no trouble allowing what is joyous and wonderful. You must also allow that which you judge to be dreadful, for that is the way which you release it. Once it is released it will be replaced automatically with love (you need only receive it). Remembering that what you deny in yourself is what you bring to yourself (the Universe does not exclude, it only includes that which you are giving attention to), when something comes into your life that brings forth a feeling that is not love, then BE STILL, GO TO THAT FEELING and FEEL IT (imagine even your worst fears, feel the terror of that fear in the extreme), ALLOW IT, LOVE AND EMBRACE IT as the child in you, as if you were comforting your own child. This loving allowance of every facet of yourself that you judge to be negative, or not enough, can change it all. The next time you are at that place of fear, stop while you are in the emotion. Close your eyes and visualize a baby you about 4 years old, terrified, lonely, brokenhearted. Reach out and take this baby and give it love, rock the baby and say I love you absolutely, I will not abandon or betray you, or leave you, we are together in this safe universe. (see More Exercises and Visualizations for numerous visualizations to release fear, anxiety, etc.). If you try to ignore, sublimate or control that fear you will not succeed and it will raise its little head in some other facet of your life. It may manifest itself in disease. You must deal with it...and the answer (always) is Love. You have already tried to push away fear, to run from it, to deny it, to overcome it. IT DOESNT WORK. You have tried the third dimensional ways of dealing with it: Running Away (Denying/trying to overcome or be stronger than it), Taking the Path of Least Resistance, Trying to Share It Away (involve someone else to solve it), Worrying About it or just Shutting Down. Do any or all of these sound familiar? The answer is to EMBRACE it, thereby releasing it. If you resist or refuse to acknowledge what is there, you will be unable to experience true joy. Choosing FEAR will always keep you from realizing your true ability to create your world, it does not matter what the fear is about. FEAR CANNOT EXIST SIDE BY SIDE WITH LOVE, THEY ARE MUTUALLY EXCLUSIVE. Winston Churchill (quoting Sir Francis Bacon) wisely said There is nothing to fear but fear itself. Fear will take more energy than the thing itself. Fear of rejection, invalidation or persecution is more your enemy than the persecutor, or the person that may reject or invalidate you. Release the fear and the persecutor has no power over you. And once you have embraced and mastered the power or technique of this spirituality, and are convinced of its validity and are manifesting your true reality, you will then fully realize the awesome power and impact of fear (those thoughts) and that it alone is what we have to watch out for (fear?), and release. I have used a device, taught to me by a spiritual healer, which has had wonderful and immediate results for me and many others in dealing with fear;
Picture and feel the fear in every facet of your body. Let it reek its little havoc for a moment and find it in every part of your body. Then picture it collect, or summon it out of your body, through your forehead as a ball of light. See the bright ball hovering in front of your forehead and feel your body free of all that fear (it feels real good doesnt it). Then visualize yourself THROWING THE BALL INTO THE SKY AND WATCHING IT EXPLODE AND DISSIPATE INTO NOTHINGNESS. Then be still and feel yourself and the sense of relaxation that has taken the place of the fear.
(Did you notice that you did not need to ask for the feeling of relaxation and love because it naturally and automatically replaces fear--that is the law of the Universe--you need only receive it. Please find more visualizations on releasing in More Exercises and Visualizations below). I was on top of a cliff and, though I am not scared of heights, when looking down felt that sinking feeling in the stomach. I could not get rid of it by any intellectual means. I then allowed/embraced the fear, graphically pictured myself falling, hitting every jutting crag, smashed and bleeding onto a precipice below. I then summoned all that fear and made the little light ball, and threw it, watching it explode. I immediately felt relaxed and then looking down again I still felt relaxed, didnt feel that sinking feeling in my stomach, and knew, on a feeling level, that I was on firm terra, which my mind already knew anyway. I did not FEEL the fear, though still KNOWING that jumping or falling off the cliff was not an activity I wanted to engage in . You may do this exercise while standing on line and feeling the frustration and anxiety of waiting (embrace the anxiety, then release it into the ball, etc.)...or with any feeling that you may judge as negative or dreadful. FEEL THE FEAR that has been holding you back. It is upon releasing the fear and pain associated with it that you create in your life the peaceful replacement for what you have let go of, and you need only receive it. The feeling you will receive after it is released IS AUTOMATIC. My goodness, I didnt even ask to feel at peace or to relax, IT JUST TOOK THE PLACE OF THE FEAR. What does that tell, you? How about THIS IS EASY...THIS WORKS...WHAT A WONDROUS GIFT. These exercises are most probably not something that you will do just once, and then forever after be free of fear. Fear is so ingrained and conditioned in us that it will arise from time to time, maybe many times a day. When it does, use these tools to deal with it. When you are taking your morning jog and imagine someone jumping out from behind a tree and harming you, release it. If you are crossing the street and imagine yourself getting hit by a car and splattered, release it. If you imagine your child being hurt, release it. If you imagine that business dealing falling through, or that you are not worthy of what you will receive from it, release it. Every time during your day that you feel fear, anxiety, doubt, unworthiness...release it. Let this be an ongoing part of your life to deal with these and other emotions. What will be left? Someone asked me, when discussing this, After I release these things, what will be left? After I release my regret or yearning (or that little bit of hope) for that failed relationship and really let it go, what will be left? After I visualize releasing the worry about this or that topic, and let go of these things that have become a part of me, a part of my daily routine, what will take the place of those thoughts (they are so familiar)- -will there be a big empty void? The answer, as you know, is LOVE automatically--good things, positive, productive, feel-good thoughts, creative and manifesting thoughts, power to get the sparks flying and the stuff happening. And remember, it is your choice. You can pick the thoughts and manifest whatever you really want. We have been taught Innocent before proven guilty, the premise that without any information there is a Presumption of Innocence (and we do not balk at accepting that). Then why cant we as easily accept the rules of the Universe: Love not fear, Abundance not lack, Co-creation not victimization, Worthiness, not lack of worthiness, etc. and PRESUME these things to exist in the first instance. As stated by Nelson Mandela in his 1994 Inaugural Address;
It is our light, not our darkness, that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented and fabulous. Actually, who are we not to be. Your playing small does not serve the world.
We must utilize our fear, understand it and transform it--feel it coming, love it, bless it and release it--and the energy will not exist in your presence, and you will use it to create yourself, your world. Remember, you are in control and it is all a reflection of what you are feeling and believing.